NYE Intention – It’s all about the Feels

NYE Intention – It’s all about the Feels

There’s an abundance of literature and information publicly available today, sprouting the best way to set goals. But I’d argue that the best NYE resolution or intention will fail without some decent preparation.

In his 2016 article, David Fleming wrote, “Here’s a secret to achieving big results: You achieve a big result not by focusing your current action on the big result, but by focusing your current action on the preliminary conditions that get you ready for the big result.

Fleming’s article focused on the preparation associated with the goal set. I think there’s a little more to goal setting myself. I believe, that in order to literally sit down and write down your goal you have to be able to create it in your mind first. You have to be able to:

  • dream it;
  • believe in it;
  • see it virtually;
  • convert it to a story which can be told either via your journal or aloud to another;
  • plan for success; and
  • experience all of the above.

So in other words, goal setting is all about the FEELS!

1. I have a DREAM

You literally need to daydream of what it is you want to manifest as change in your life. You need to be able to create those mental components and attach emotions of how this new / different thing in your life will make you feel. When we align our brain (what we think), to our heart (what we feel), we are capable of walking our journey path without obstacle. Why? Because from a universal, energetic perspective, what we think – we do! Simply it’s a basic law of attraction.

Our thoughts are mental energy, and utilise our neural network to influence how we move and respond to the world around us. Remember that this mental energy can be influenced by both our genetics, values and beliefs. It can also have a positive or negative self charge. So if the negative nancy stuff is entering your headspace, your mindset will need adjusting.

Before you give up, consider how to re-ignite your dream, utilising your imagination so that you can literally picture yourself overcoming the obstacle of negative self-talk.

2. I BELIEVE in ME

It’s fantastic to dream big, but don’t wish your life away in the process! When focussing on the area of life you want to change, literally ask yourself “can I see myself doing / being this new thing?” If the answer is yes, then include in the dream how you will take your first steps.

If the answer is no, then ask yourself what is it about the dream that is not believable? Might you need to picture allowing assistance and support from others? Might be afraid of the hard work? That’s just negative self again, so shake things up and go back to dreaming how you change that.

3. You have to SEE to believe

Some of the most successful people in the world allow themselves to ‘see’ the success they want. Take an Olympian competitor for example. They literally prepare for their event or race, by visualising how they will win. Gift yourself moments to ‘see’ how you will conquer the obstacles along the way. When you get stuck, return to dreaming up solutions and believe that you hold the key to your own success!

4. You have to TELL it

Widener wrote “One reason many dreams never go anywhere is because the dreamer keeps it all to himself. It is a quiet dream that only lives inside of his mind.” This can be confronting for some, as they may have a fear of failure and will only announce success to the world once the deed has been accomplished. For others the adventure of change is very private.

I recommend starting the goal-setting process by writing yourself a love letter! I know that sounds strange. However, if you can capture the dream of what you want, and include fine details of what you want to see in terms of change, then how these changes will make you feel – you have then told yourself what you really want with precise detail.

Once you’re comfortable that you have a very clear picture of the dream, that might be when your confidence shifts, to allow you to openly share the goal.

5. PLAN to succeed

My research for this particular article caused me to stumble across some brilliant quotes.

Breaking down goals into manageable small actions for implementation is how we formulate new habits over time. Sure you’re going to stumble and fall off the bandwagon, but that’s why we start with the small stuff first – so you can quickly get back on the horse and ride to success!

6. EXPERIENCE it all

So whilst you’re dreaming, be sure to include, how the change you want in your life, makes you feel. Believe that can enjoy the process of change, and you are safe to do so. If necessary, see the small steps you need to take in order for the change to evolve. Journal your backside off, working through your strengths to achieve the goal, identifying the weaknesses and returning to dream of how to overcome the challenge. And finally have a plan, don’t just go with the flow.

Failing to plan to planning to fail“!

References:

Fleming, David. (Nov, 2016) “Why ‘This’ Before ‘That’ Matters If You Want to Achieve Your Goals“, www.success.com

Widener, Chris. (Feb 2017) “7 Steps to Achieve Your Dream“, www.success.com

Like the Reflection of the Life you have Created?

Like the Reflection of the Life you have Created?

Whilst I’m recovering from digesting a food baby, I’m sitting quietly reflecting on an amazing year of challenges, adventures, laughter, tears, friendships – new and old. So many memories to cherish.

I have reflected on what has worked this festive season, and already made some notes in next year’s diary to ensure I have TIME to meet my own needs. Call me a nerd, but I’ve already pre-booked my massage and kinesiology sessions for December next year. Why? Because I’m worth looking after, and it’s nice to have something to look forward to. Also, because like me, the service providers I utilise are all local businesses just like me, so they deserve to be supported, and feel positive about future bookings as well.

I’ve also prepared my ‘elf on the shelf’ letters for my daughter, and the hijinx this Elf will create. I’ve tagged my favourite festive recipes and converted them to gluten and dairy free. Now that I’ve trialled that these revised versions worked, the recipes have been copied into my master cook book. I’ve got a family festive newsletter template created to support me streamlining communication with friends and family next year.

My current reflections from Christmas past, have taught me to understand what processes work, and what don’t. This year, I radically changed the pace of how I work, both in clinic and my volunteer activities, as well as parenting duties, and had scheduled a daily self-care regime which worked a treat. After doing this daily for a month, I’ve set myself up with a fantastic daily habit which can easily be carried through into the new year whilst I’m on leave.

With a few small action based modifications to this system, next year will be even better – I needed a little extra time for food preparation for the great feast, and to squeeze more time for ‘things that crop up’ – which they did!

This all sounds a little controlling, but I’ve reflected on what worked and simply marked time for me in the calendar so I don’t double book my “self” time. It was that simple. There wasn’t a list. I didn’t get stressed out, a little bit of pre-planning enabled me to achieve all that I intended – and then some. This planning was literally marking out time for me in my work diary and setting my intention to feel awesome the entire festive season.

It can feel foreign to sit quietly with self and allow creative imagination to ‘dream big’ if you will. Some aspects of society try to make us feel ‘selfish’ or ‘self centred’ when we utilise the law of attraction and invite gratitude into our lives. When we incorporate a daily practice of gratitude, we can build upon the wonderfulness of abundance in our lives and truly create the life we want!

Top tips for surviving Christmas next year!

With these couple of hot tips, you too can succeed even more than you dreamed in 2018! Don’t wait until Christmas, start now – you have nothing to loose!

  • Set aside five to ten minutes to reflect on how are you feeling today – great and on top of the world or tired and wanting to hide in your bed? Even better write the ‘feels’ into your journal.
  • Focus on what was fantastic, and how it made you feel and be grateful for that. If you get the chance, multiply this fantastic feeling by three!  This way, we you repeat the ‘great thing’, the euphoria kicks in quickly! You can quickly feel great on a conscious level, which builds upon your ‘happiness account‘.
  • Identify any small changes which would support you to feel different, perhaps more buoyant today. What small thing could you do differently so that you could be feeling awesome today? eg less sugar or alcohol, less time with toxic family?
  • Could you be starting these small actions this week? So that by this time next year you’ve got a rock solid habit of self nurture to support the changes you want to see in your life?
  • Schedule ‘self love’ appointments for December 2018 in your calendar now, before 2017 is over. I’ve already pre-booked my massage, kinesiology, chiropractic and hair dresser appointments for the year.
  • Once you’ve got templates / schedules that work in your life and lifestyle – keep them! Write them down and save them someplace safe so you can repurpose these positive aspects. After all you want to be thanking yourself for investing a couple of minutes planning this week instead of reinventing the wheel next November!

Remember you can choose to change and bloom from within – it could start with a reflection of the life you are living right now xx