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Be Your Own Cheerleader

Be Your Own Cheerleader

Accountability is not a tool that you use to shame yourself.

Accountability is an active form of mindfulness that you can use to honour the commitments you make to yourself (and potentially others).

I use accountability as a tool to follow through on the promises I make to myself. Read that again if you need, because your capacity to follow through is an incredibly powerful resource.

I use accountability techniques to refine how I map out the small actionable steps to achieve my goals and associated responsibilities. Mapping my accountability is especially useful to motivate me when I’m starting something new and feel like I’m in the weeds, struggling to push through or feeling overwhelmed.

The use of accountability map can instill a positive sense of ownership of what you want (without guilt or shame if you don’t immediately achieve). I regularly refer my clinical clients to use accountability maps because you can readily track the small successes you’ve made (and easily dismissed). 

Acknowledging those small wins that generate feel-good hormones and puts credits of hope into your happiness account. This is what can significantly impact your personal growth in a positive way — small hits of dopamine. 

Why do I love accountability mapping so much? Because the positive action of mapping provides you with conscious permission to become your own cheerleader. 

When you map where in your life you’ve been accountable, you remain present rather than triggered. This is a neurological space in your mind, whereby you can allow your imagination to unfold and envisage seeing more success. It is these visions that kick start motivation to continue. This part of your psyche is your inner cheerleader!

Here are four reasons why your ‘inner cheerleader’ could use accountability as a crucial tool in achieving your goals.

Increased Focus

When you can hold yourself accountable (not is a space of shame or guilt), your cheerleader self can revisit your clear goals and objectives. Regularly revisiting and refreshing your vision of what you want to achieve enables you to remain focused. 

This focus boosts your capacity to concentrate on the small actionable steps which will result in what’s truly important in relation to achieving your goal.

Improved Productivity

When your cheerleader tracks your progress, you can identify potential inefficiencies and areas for improvement. Reflection by your cheerleader isn’t a bad thing. Tracking your performance supports you to identify any arising gaps. This will keep you honest with yourself in terms of progress or procrastination.

In my experience when I track my personal progress, I find myself leaning into more efficient use of my time and resources, as well as improving new techniques. My inner cheerleader naturally streamlines processes and systems to ensure I am repeatedly hitting the targets and then expanding to the next goal.

Enhanced Self-Discipline 

Working with your inner cheerleader boosts your accountability capacity through encouragement whilst do-ing the action. Actively utilise that positive internal dialogue from your internal cheerleader to boost your self-discipline and drive a hunger for more consistent effort and dedication to your goals. 

The more positive dialogue you have inside your everyday mind, the more you will crave this subtle serotonin boost and crave more success. You will naturally crave how good it feels after you have completed the small actionable task, rather than focussing on how you feel before the event.

Boosted Confidence

Allow your inner cheerleader to recognise and celebrate everything and all achievements – no matter how small. Cheering all aspects of your beautiful life naturally builds your self-esteem. Your self esteem and belief in self builds the foundations of your confidence in your abilities.

Conclusion

I don’t know about you, but I call upon my inner cheerleader for every single Park Run I participate in. I call upon her when I’m vacuuming or even doing the dishes. That positive part of my psyche is always around cheering me on, no matter what I’m trying to achieve. 

Give your inner cheerleader a shout out today and allow yourself to be mindful of how you feel after you complete the task.

Want to read more like this?

This is My Roarsigned copies of my first published book can be purchased from this website.

  • Self Reflection – A little Look Withinclick here
  • 8 Hot Tips How To Journal – click here
  • Can You Risk Not Stepping Up To Mother yourself?Click here

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First published with WordGarden, a Medium Publication. Click here this piece.

About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is an advanced Kinesiology Practitioner, Wellbeing Coach, Hypnotherapist (including psychotherapy), Resource Therapist (Ego State), Intuitive Meditation Facilitator, and trainee Counselor (Mental Health).

Karen is a published author of This Is My Roar.

She is a self-confessed laughaholic.  She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland
5 Ways To Boost Belief In Self

5 Ways To Boost Belief In Self

Pick yourself up when the doubt starts to lurk

Living our human experience, we are firstborn without the capacity for anything more sophisticated than the basics — eat, poop, sleep and scream for attention.

Sometimes we forget this — we didn’t learn to walk and talk straight away. All these new skills take time to explore, attempt, fail, and develop. We don’t master perfection of these small actions, we practice and fall over and pick ourselves up — over and over again.

Developing our beliefs (defined as “an acceptance that something exists or is true”) about ourselves is just like walking. Our self-belief is an evolution of thought, reflection and acceptance of who we are. This changes and evolves throughout our entire life.

Yet as we age and mature we are exposed to experiences that challenge us. Some of these challenges even trigger us, and we have to work hard to acknowledge the trigger and heal.

Sometimes just pausing and mindfully breathing is enough to bring you back into the present moment. This takes practice.

Fundamentally though, we need to believe that our abilities can be developed to overcome the hurdle we face. Without that belief we have no hope. Without hope, what’s the actual point?

When we don’t initially succeed, a seed of doubt can get sewn. When you keep fertilising that seed on the unconscious level, the doubt can smack you so quickly. It’s at this point we unknowingly sabotage ourselves.

To minimise your tendency to sabotage, you need to be proactive in managing your belief in self.

So how can you proactively boost ‘belief’ in yourself? 

1. Practice positive self-talk

Gift yourself encouraging words. This is especially a healthy practice when you can catch yourself thinking or speaking something negative. When you can instantly acknowledge low vibration or negativity, and reframe with something positive you can instantly transform your emotional vibration.

Positive self-talk can also be boosted with the use of affirmations which create a positive and intentional mindset.

2. Set achievable goals

I’m a big advocate of trying to achieve good things in your life. Here’s the thing, I coach people to dream big and create tiny actions (that later become habits) that are super easy to achieve.

When you break down larger goals into a list of small actions, that are more achievable you quickly build confidence and belief in your abilities. You are more likely to achieve small wins on the board which will contribute to your motivation to continue when the actions get a little tougher and more challenging as you progress.

3. Celebrate every success

When we implement those tiny actions (mentioned above) and have tiny wins — celebrate it all. Celebrate everything. Be sure to make the time to acknowledge every single little accomplishment, no matter how small they may seem.

You’ll gift yourself a dopamine hit and be your own cheerleader. Play your favourite song. Tick the job off the list. Pump yourself up with the little things. Before you know it, you’re ticking off all the things from your ‘to-do’ list.

4. Surround yourself with positivity

When self-doubt kicks in, you can feel incredibly isolated. This can exacerbate your sensation of lowered self-worth.

I’ve learnt over the years to include positive people in my tribe. They build me up when my knees shake or the nervous agitation rises.

I choose to surround myself with people who support and encourage me. They enquire about and track my progress. We debrief with each other’s projects and dreams.

So be sure to seek out positive and uplifting people and environments.

5. Embrace failure as a learning opportunity

We learn to walk by first figuring out how to roll, then crawl, then rise and step forward. This process isn’t without falls, slips and trips and the odd face splat.

But should you quit attempting to walk because you fall? Repeat the steps advised above, and reframe the experience — what did I just learn? Where can I make small changes or implement small actions?

Instead of letting failure bring you down, view it as a chance to learn and grow, and use it to fuel your belief in yourself.

Conclusion

Enjoy playing with these small tips and tricks to pick yourself up when the doubt starts to lurk. Belief in self is one of the most powerful actions you can gift yourself to live your best life.

You really can choose to change and bloom from within.

First published with Illumination, a Medium Publication. Click here this piece.

Want to read more like this?

This is My Roarsigned copies of my first published book can be purchased from this website.

Self Reflection – A little Look Withinclick here

8 Hot Tips How To Journal – click here

Can You Risk Not Stepping Up To Mother yourself?Click here

About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, LEAP & NES Practitioner, Intuitive Meditation Facilitator, and published author. She is a self-confessed laughaholic.  She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland