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Create Change In 2024 With Intention

Create Change In 2024 With Intention

by | Dec 28, 2023 | Self Development

Have you ever created a NYE resolution whereby you successfully achieved a successful outcome? No? Me either!

It’s taken me a bit to figure out the reason why resolutions don’t work.

At a societal level, traditionally we have chosen resolutions to negate something unwanted in life. However, our modern culture understands so much more about psychology.

The Oxford Dictionary defines a resolution as a firm decision to do or not to do something and an intention as an aim or plan.

Resolutions are flawed for several reasons including:

  • they are only mental thought that have connected to a negative default position — something you no longer want;
  • they are based on something you desire in the future, rather than right now in the present;
  • are often vague and have no delivery boundary in the future
  • often based on a comparison you’ve made with something that someone else has or does;
  • they lack room to amend or reconfigure the deliverable outcome, it’s all or failure;
  • their start date and time are very specific, with no flexibility for planning and implementation;
  • there is no flexibility nor invitation to explore the feelings, beliefs or habits that maintain what it is you are trying to change.

For example, that moment that you decide to quit smoking on a whim. The resolution does not address why you are smoking in the first place, nor does it address why you maintain the habit. It also doesn’t include an alternative plan to reduce if quitting cold turkey becomes too much.

The resolution based on a thought, does not set you up with a proactive plan for a positive achievement outcome. Additionally, the resolution doesn’t attend to anything in your emotional department.

There’s the power of creating an intention over a resolution. An intention is a process by which you connect to a positive and desired feeling, something you want. The resolution statement is often a default from avoiding a feeling, sensation or habit you don’t want in your life.

Stating or naming the resolution as the fireworks explode at midnight is easy. It’s almost a token gesture. You are simply identifying the desired change status you want in life. But there is no substance or basis for the commitment you are so flippantly stating.

The negativity that comes with resolutions, smacks you up the backside of your head by the end of the second week of January — if you’ve made it that far. The reason resolutions fail so quickly is that they are only a statement of what you want. There’s no plan of action, no support, no backup.

It’s important to recognise the definitions as you form your intentions. Your intention should guide your desired action that leads you towards the desired goal or outcome.

Remember resolutions are simply the destination of the outcome you desire. An intention frames the stepping actions of your desired outcome. The intention plan acts like a roadmap for how to arrive at the desired destination.

I am fondly reminded by the abundance of emails I have read this week, that you do not have to have 2024 all worked out by the 1st of January. The beauty of the annual intention is that you can take as long as you like to achieve your desired outcome.

It’s the Yuletide Season, whereby the twelve days of Christmas forecast the future twelve months. There is something really special about carving out space to reflect and release the expiring year with all its experiences. Reflect on the lessons learned this year, before opening up yourself up to more dreaming and deeper desires. Utilise an intention that allows you to create the plan and the energy for your desired change.

First published with Illumination, a Medium Publication. Click here this piece.

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About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is a Hypnotherapist, Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, LEAP & NES Practitioner, Intuitive Meditation Facilitator, and published author.

She is a self-confessed laughaholic.  She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland

12 Ways To Create Kick Arse NYE Resolutions

12 Ways To Create Kick Arse NYE Resolutions

by | Dec 20, 2023 | Law Of Attraction

Get creative and celebrate life using the energy of the yuletide season!

Forecast your new year with these simple coaching self-help ideas! Learn how to create the best resolution ever!

We’ve all heard of the 12 days of Christmas–right?

There’s a song detailing each day of December they brought a recipient a new gift. This jingle got changed (read bastardised) in the 1980s to the poor recipient receiving all the gifts requiring Prozac and a psychiatric hospital stay.

Hilarious, but the actual Yuletide meaning got lost in translation.

There’s a lot of northern hemisphere history about Yuletide but you might not have realized that the pagan celebration of Yule is twelve days long. It traditionally begins with the winter solstice (northern hemisphere) on December 21 and ends on January 1.

Nearly every post-Christmas celebration has origins invoking the rebirth of the sun or the sun god. They also referred this to as ‘Mother’s Night‘, honouring the Mother Goddess (& the coming of spring) along with the protective female ancestors who watch over us. It’s fitting given that the northern hemisphere is in their peak of winter.

Below the equator in present times, we can still take away from all this history and continue to evoke the worship of the Mother Gaia in our own unique way with a spiritual flavour.

Modern society places ridiculous magical phenomena on the period of New Year’s Eve. Our societal traditions trick us into believing to achieve the perfect life, we can make a simple resolution to do things differently, or worse do it better.

SHAZAM, wave the wand, cue fireworks, say a RESOLUTION and you change your life – WRONG!

It just doesn’t work that way!

The challenge with most resolutions is that there is little forethought why you want to change, and a large focus on avoiding or quickly shifting the negative. There is often a desire to take a magic pill and like the wand-waving, we get disappointed when our expectations for instant fixes aren’t realised. Failure of resolutions occurs because there is a lack of consideration in the following areas:

  • no acknowledgement of your present MINDSET or your current status (that you’re wanting to change)
  • there is often very little or no reflection on present life why you’ve ended up in this position in the first place, and now wish for a new life!
  • there is little to no planning for success on achieving new goals – for example, what you want to be feeling once you’ve reached the goal
  • no gratitude for where you are presently at on your journey path – if you can’t be thankful for who you are already, how can you manifest and create change?

    What about if you set your intention to choose to change in the New Year so that you allow yourself the entire year to evolve?

    An interesting concept isn’t it – permission! Allowing yourself permission to refine yourself buys you time to:

    • set realistic and achievable goals
    • identify strengths and weaknesses
    • allow small implementable actions to be introduced slowly, allowing for positive habits to be created 
    • reflect on the success of implementation and progressive change, which builds upon motivation and confidence!

    Have you had the experience of creating an NYE resolution, only to fail within the first month, or worst the first couple of days? Is it time to change your approach?

    What if I were to tell you that completing simple rituals and taking the time to become observant during the twelve days after Christmas could provide you with a wealth of information to succeed in the year to come.

    Life has a tendancy these days to get fast and complicated at times, and we can easily lose focus of SELF and our JOURNEY PATH.

    What I’ve learnt is that the energy and activities that occur in the twelve days after Christmas provide insight, much like looking inside a crystal ball of how the future year coming could pan out.

    Each of these twelve days represents a future month of the new calendar year.

    Here are my tips for forecasting your new year and creating the best resolutions ever!

    I find it extremely useful in the twelve days which follow Christmas to have rituals so that the habit of tuning into self doesn’t have to be hard-won. I enjoy it when it flows naturally and easily.

    Get grounded – connection to the earth allows you to discharge any build-up of positive ions in the body. Grounding energy allows you to better access your intuition.

    Set your intention – I have been using the intention of ‘surrendering to ordinary thinking’ which instantly allows me to think creatively outside the box. It allows me to slow down and hear the whispers from spirit as to where to guide my attention and observe something.

    Journal – during yuletide I pay attention to my energy, creativity and motivation levels. I purposefully pay attention to my mood and anyone who triggers me. I dig deep about patterns which cause me to experience negativity and make notes for future exploration. I write about it all.

    Reflections of these notes during the future month they relate to, come in very handy and have previously been of significant benefit when planning large scale or important events. It’s like creating your own hitchhikers guide to your own galaxy.

    There is an abundance of information everywhere throughout your day which can infuse you with joy or push all your buttons. Pay attention!

    For those of you living in the southern hemisphere, here are some specific monthly based journal prompts which you can document now, which may benefit you later as a guide to how that month will pan out.

    Day One (December 20th) – January

    This is my birthday month and our summer school holidays. This month is all about having fun in the sun.

    In hour journal, ask yourself this “how do I allow myself to shine my light?”

    Be sure to capture the answer in the context of “How do I utilise this month to create abundance which flows through the entire year?”

    Day Two (21st December) – February

    This is generally a very hot weather month with unpredictable rains. It’s a return to the school year and this month is generally where we settle into our normal routines. Pay attention to this day as to where or what can cause your energy and attention to peak / flow / dwindle.

    In your journal ask yourself “where do I support myself to achieve my goals?”

    Understanding how you use your energy in a single day can provide fabulous context to enable you to create strategies which last the year ahead.

    Day Three (December 22nd) – March

    This month marks the halfway point between the solstices, and it’s called the equinox. It’s the day of equal light and darkness. Look for signs of duality and balance on this day. Additionally, the equinox marks the changing of the season. Pay attention during this day to where your balance may be disturbed.

    In your journal give yourself permission to dig deep and ask yourself “what pattern you may be running that you need to let go of in order to evolve?” Just like a tree sheds it’s leaves, we go through a cycle of change as well.

    Autumn is a large energetic change month demonstrated by the evolution of leaves changing colours.

    Day Four (December 23rd) – April

    This month the energies are generally high as Christians around the globe mourn the death of Christ and celebrate his resurrection. Regardless of your cultural upbringing, rebirthing energy is huge and triggers everyone.

    In your journal ask yourself “what aspect of me is no longer serving my higher purpose? What do I need to release with ease and grace (or allow to die) in order to move forward?”

     

    Day Five (December 24th) – May

    The days begin to darken, the temperate has changed and the cold winds have often arrived. The barrenness of winter is approaching and the trees are shedding their leaves, becoming naked.

    We often take on the energy of feeling vulnerable and exposed in this month. So jump into your journal and ask yourself “what am I afraid of? What could I do to boost my courage to face my fears?”

    Day Six (December 25th) – June

    June can be a very liberating month with the right mindset and preparation. It’s the making of the beginning of winter and there’s a solstice (the shortest day light of the year). There are many shadows and the energy of light and dark can easily cause you to fall apart.

    I often find myself reminding my clients that this is a fabulous month to reconnect to your soul star, your seed if you will. This is the time to go within and find your hidden treasure amongst the shadows.

    In your journal ask yourself “If I was a caterpillar, what would I like to transform this winter whilst in my cocoon?”

    Day Seven (December 26th) – July

    Often the blustering wet wind prevails during this month and we don’t venture outside often. This is a day to explore things to do around the home. This is also a fabulous month to revisit goals established at the beginning of the year and assess whether you’re on target.

    Be gentle with yourself if you’ve strayed off the desired course and start mapping out small achievable actions in the calendar to get yourself back on track.

    In your journal ask yourself “is my home a comfortable castle or prison? What do I need to do inside to shift this feeling?”

    Day Eight (December 27th) – August

    It takes a lot of energy for a seedling to emerge from the ground in the cold spring soil. We are no different. We need to be able to rely on ourselves to continue along our journey path even when things get uncomfortable.

    In your journal ask yourself “what self reliance traits do I have?” and also “What have I learnt about myself to grow even stronger?”

    Day Nine (December 28th) – September

    It’s the month of the second equinox (this one’s called the vernal equinox) and marks the change of the season. It’s another day of balance between light and dark.

    In my personal experience, I find spring energy much more powerful than the gentle autumn. There’s a lot of power required to generate new green flowery growth in everything around us.

    In your journal ask yourself “what do I need to do to sustain my abundance and growth?”

    Day Ten (December 29th) – October

    This is often an odd month. If your start to spring was shaky or involved a lot of change, things can still be stabilising. I find this can be a very high octane month of getting stuff done and so I plan well in advance to prepare and ensure my energy levels can be consistent.

    In your journal, if you are full steam ahead, ask yourself “what do I need to do to remain consistent?”

    If you are the legs are shaky ask yourself “how do I maintain my connection to my goals and build upon my perseverance to succeed what I set out to achieve?”

    Day Eleven (December 30th) – November

    This is a month whereby we’re on the home stretch for the year. It’s the last full month of work before another round of festive season begins. This is a month to remain disciplined and stick to your plan.

    In your journal ask yourself “how committed am I to myself and my goals?”

    Day Twelve (December 31st) – December

    It’s a high vibe energy month due to the summer solstice, the longest day of sunlight in the year. It’s the peak of abundance energy and everything you’ve been working towards for the entire year. It’s a time of celebrating life, your connections, friends, family and love.

    In your journal ask yourself “what can I be grateful for?”

    Final Words

    Hope you’ve enjoyed a new way of looking and responding the Yuletide and can easily incorporate some of the above rituals and journal tips to shape the forecast of your year ahead.

    About Karen

    Karen Humphries is a Change Faciltator. She holds qualifications in Hypnotherapy, Resource Therapy, Kinesiology, Wellness Coaching, and Meditation to name a few.

    She merges all of her teachings into a unique style of facilitated change for her audience and clients.

    She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

    How To Harness Lunar New Year Energy

    How To Harness Lunar New Year Energy

    by | Jan 22, 2023 | Law Of Attraction

    Learn 5 ways to harness the new lunar year energy and increase your capacity to manifest success and abundance into your year ahead!

    Happy new year – again! It feels weird right?

    Instead of celebrating the Gregorian calendar, I find myself aligning with the cycle of the seasons – the lunar cycle and lunar calendar.

    What is the Lunar New Year?

    Lunar New Year is the beginning of a lunar calendar or lunisolar calendar year, whose months are moon cycles.

    Lunar New Year is traditionally the celebration of the arrival of spring – think about the energy of spring, everything is vibrant and abundant energy.

    I think what’s even better is the celebrations extend from now to mid February – yep a whole month of celebration prosperity and abundance!

    The Lunar New Year is also known in Chinese culture as the Chinese New year. Celebrations continue until the lantern festival is scheduled for 5 February!

    That’s a whole lot of fireworks!

    Read more about the year of the water rabbit.

    Why utilise the Lunar New Year energy?

    For me, this means dedicating moments each day to my annual dharma intention. I revisit all of the anchors I’ve created in my daily rituals to ensure I am absolutely aligned with the annual intention I set for myself.

    On the whole, I’m all sorted, but there is always space for refinement and expansion as each ritual becomes a subconscious habit.

    Just taking myself through this process of revisiting all the ways I self-care is reinforcing my commitment. It’s strengthening the energetic alignment of my annual intention – to be peaceful, full of peace.

    This isn’t a shaming exercise. This is your invitation to revisit your intention.

    When you revisit that wish for your dream life and then do something about it there is a transition. You energetically move from dream to goal.

    When you begin implementing small actions to create the new habit of the dream, you are activating the Law of Attraction. In other words, every time you practice your alignment to the dream, in some small way you are embodying the energy of the dream life you’re wanting.

    What I’m seeing already in January is rapid delivery of what I ask for – are you feeling this too? Or perhaps you are still shedding the remnants of last year.

    What’s special about this year, is we are transitioning into a massive energetic shift, of more harmony within the community. The timing couldn’t be more divine to shift out of the last vestiges of the old paradigm.

    And the best bit … unlike the gregorian new years eve, we’ve got time to implement our rituals! Go nuts!

    Here are 5 Ways to Harness the Lunar New Year Energy!

    1. There’s a need to physically declutter.

    Having your stuff piled up around your home stagnates your energy.

    Find a permanent home for it. Don’t move items around your space. When you don’t dedicate a space for an item, there is an element of disrespect for the abundance you have received.

    When you continue to procrastinate relocating the item there is an avoidance energy that builds. This negative vibe grows like cancer. Every time you look at the unhoused item, you likely chastise yourself — and the negativity builds.

    The aim is clear pathways, to allow free bodily movement, rather than obstruct it. This replicates the movement of chi within your body within meridians and in between chakras (energy centres).

    Decluttering your physical space, especially after Christmas, clears your energy for the new year. Now that we have a new moon upon us, the energy for manifesting what you want is ripe.

    2. Cleanse doorways & entrances

    Today I’m washing the entrances to my home. Yep washing away any debris from the previous year.

    I’m using a combination of water that I have  filtered and applied reiki.

    To this water, I’ve added some witchy poo concoctions –

    Aromatherapy to both ground my physical body, and expand conscious awareness.

    Australian Bush Flower Essence Space Clearing essences.

    And then the literal scrubbing begins. Everything gets washed, cleaned and cleansed.

    3. Smudge The Space

    Smudging is the ritual of cleaning the energy of a physical space, object or person. If you have a meditation ritual, you can burn Sage or Palo Santo before your practice. This will help prepare your energy and mind for meditation and allow you to connect to your heart space.

    I burn incense the entire time I’m cleaning and clearing. The energetic shifts are palpable, and I find myself working more consistently and efficiently.

    Decluttering the energetic vibe of your space deletes negativity. It supports you to let go of anything that no longer serves your higher purpose.

    Smudging is like clearing the energetic highway to manifest your deepest desires.

    4. Play Space Clearing Music

    The heart resonance of sound is very powerful. There are a number of methods to use sound to heal a space

    • Recorded music — play tracks that have powerful meaning to you, and play it loud. Whilst there is no hard and fast rule for what you play, ideally, that music can either be instrumental or include words that resonate with your intention for the space you are clearing.
    • Singing bowls — are a powerful tool for space clearing. Tibetan bowls are said to “have a sound that has the ability to bring everything back to a centre of stillness.” Notice how your energy responds to it.
    • Singing— Our voice is unique like a fingerprint and is a source of individual power. The resonance of your voice links with your ability to speak your truth and stand up for what you believe in.
    • Chanting — Using the power of your voice, you might use words or phrases, or you may work with tones and different sounds. A space-claiming statement might be a great place to start –

    “This is my space, it is sacred to me. I own my sacred space 100%. It is my intention that no one, and nothing can enter my space unless I give them permission on a conscious level.”

    5. Build an Alter

    I’ve created a dedicated space, and called it an altar. I have placed a pattern of precious items including a love letter to the universe of what my dreams for this year contain.

    There’s a big arse crystal and a multitude of candles.

    There are affirmations that I change daily (best way to repurpose positive calendars!).

    It’s completely woo and greets you at the entrance. It would be easier some days to have a big neon sign that stated “witchypoo lives here”.

    But here’s the thing. It’s a sensory reminder of who I am, at the essence of my core. It represents my prayers for the dream life I am manifesting and calling to me.

    Every time I look, smell and listen I’m reminded. I’m constantly focussing on all that good juju.

    Conclusion

    So this is your invitation to ride the high vibe energy and reclaim your space.

    Use these five easy tips to invite the energy into your home and continue stepping closer to your dreams!

    Want to read more like this?

    This is My Roar – signed copies of my first published book can be purchased from this website.

    Self Reflection – A little Look Within – click here

    8 Hot Tips How To Journal – click here

    Can You Risk Not Stepping Up To Mother yourself? – Click here

    About Karen

    Change Facilitator

    Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, LEAP & NES Practitioner, Intuitive Meditation Facilitator, and published author. She is a self-confessed laughaholic.  She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

    Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland

    You Don’t Need A Genie In A Bottle To Manifest Your Dream Life

    You Don’t Need A Genie In A Bottle To Manifest Your Dream Life

    by | Dec 27, 2022 | Law Of Attraction

    In this article I share how to manifest your dream life and find your holy grail by revisiting your dharma in meditation…

    I discovered the location of the Holy Grail!

    Well, perhaps that’s a bit of a stretch. I discovered the map to find your grail! I’m not sure you’d believe me if I told you, but you already have it. It sits within the heart of every human!

    Did that peak your interest?

    Each year, I revisit my Dharma Intention, with the loving support of my Meditation teacher. In this process, I connect deeply into my heart space in order to create the Sankalpa. In other words, I consult the map that draws me to my Holy Grail — the purest of my essence. My light. My heart spark.

    What is a Sankalpa?

    According to Kripalu Centre for Yoga and Health, Sankalpa is the Sanskrit word for intention. San means “to become one with” and Kalpa means “time” and “subconscious mind.” In some forms of yoga, the word Sankalpa is used as a way to create an intention, and connect with your heart’s deepest desire.

    So instead of creating resolutions for the new year, I create an intention. I use this intentional statement, like a road map, and apply it to my entire year ahead. 

    I allow what I discovered in that powerful annual dharma meditation, to continue to direct me and keep me from straying too far from the path of my enlightenment. 

    Why Do Resolutions Ultimately Fail?

    The western societal tradition of creating a New Year’s Eve resolution is always destined to fail. Every single time.

    This is because the act of making a resolution only links to some abstract dream — there’s no planning or action involved. There’s no association with your feelings. It’s just your wish for a dream life. There’s no actual substance.

    The connection to the heart spark is missing. The resolution is simply a fantasy.

    My 2022 Dharma intention was “I am enough”. 

    Everything I did was forged from the foundation of this statement. It was like a permission slip that enabled me to drop the need to justify certain decisions or actions. 

    This commitment to self enabled me to take a myriad of small steps forward, that now looking back in reflection look like a giant leap ahead in my life.

    Embracing your dharma statement creates a desire, deep within, that keeps you pointed to your true north. Your dharma starts with connecting to your heart space which seeds the energy of positive thoughts. You fertilize those seeds through regular and consistent connection back to your dharma statement of intention.

    This is the beginning of the spiritual awakening.

    How does it work?

    Gandhi’s quote defines what is your Dharma and provides a very simplistic and powerful explanation:

    Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words.

    Keep your words positive, because your words become your behavior.

    Keep your behavior positive, because your behavior becomes your habits.

    Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values.

    Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny.” ~ Gandhi

    Always remember you really can choose to change. There is no shortage of tools, tips and tricks that you can utilise to clarify your path to enlightenment.

    The practice of Dharma Meditation and creation of an annual Sankulpa can lead you into the perfect alignment of your destiny.

    Want to read more like this?

    This is My Roar – signed copies of my first published book can be purchased from this website.

    Self Reflection – A little Look Within – click here

    8 Hot Tips How To Journal – click here

    Can You Risk Not Stepping Up To Mother yourself? – Click here

    For more published Medium Articles click here

    About Karen

    Change Facilitator

    Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, LEAP & NES Practitioner, Intuitive Meditation Facilitator, and published author. She is a self-confessed laughaholic.  She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

    Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland