What Can I Give Myself That No One Else Did?

There’s been an energetic theme this year that has delivered a spiritual and radical transformative change. Did you experience all the feels?

I know, it’s felt big throughout the entire 2025. Wave after wave of shifting vibrational space, drama and old krud surfacing.

I’ve likened those heavy sensations to being bumped around inside a washing machine. It was not comfortable, and I know I’m not alone. My clinical clients have been telling me they have been feeling it too.

There’s something significant I share with clients to bridge the gap between clinical appointments. This is your invitation to journal.

I recognise there are times when it feels overwhelming to sit and feel the sensations of unexpressed emotions. It can, therefore, feel impossible to speak about what you’re feeling. Sometimes there are no words, but the sensations remain.

When this heaviness resides within, journaling can allow your body to express what you’ve been holding onto. It’s a fabulous form of expression to stop those thoughts swirling around your everyday mind.

There can be occasions when you open your journal, and the intensity of

If you deserve to feel pain, you deserve to unpack it. It’s that simple. Life is meant to be lived, not just survived.

When you’re always in survival mode, there’s no space for growth, evolution or recalibration. When you’re in a state of survival, there is zero space or capacity for healing.

What if I could permit you to look at your pain in a different way?

What part of you hasn’t healed because you’ve been too busy surviving to get to tomorrow?

I was physically and emotionally challenged last year. I found myself journaling one day to gain self-awareness about the situation.

So when life hits you a good one, upside of the head, if you don’t cry or don’t do something different, your reactive response is to unconsciously seek a way forward.

You haven’t dealt with the life slap, you have just reacted to it.

So here’s your permission to acknowledge the slaps and parts of you that haven’t healed. It’s time to process and learn so that when tomorrow arrives, you will have naturally evolved and recalibrated change within your nervous system.

Here’s your permission to parent yourself.

I wonder where you might start the healing process?

Will you give yourself permission to soften?

Permission to be vulnerable? To cry? To feel?

Will you permit yourself to sit in the sensations until they pass?

Could you write about that, as if writing a love letter to your inner self holding the wounds?

I wonder what that part that has been trying to survive all these years needs to feel safe? I wonder what it feels like to release the need to survive? Write the answer in your journal.

This is what you then discuss in therapy.

This is how you bridge the gaps between therapeutic sessions with your practitioner.

This is how you dig deep.

This is how you heal.

So what might stop you from leaning into the answer of the question — what did I need, but never got?

Then ask yourself the most profound question of all — Can I now give this to myself?

Conclusion

Asking simple yet profound questions builds a relationship with yourself. Be prepared to be surprised at how simple the answers might be as you gift yourself the missing links!

Want to read more like this?

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