Use COVID Pause To Boost Your Business

Use COVID Pause To Boost Your Business

When pairing up with a colleague, learn the addresses of their social media sites. Invite the opportunity to like and share each other’s pages. If you like the balance provided by your new colleague, give them a testimonial and/or review!

I have created a template in my professional www.canva.com account. Each time I get feedback I can knock up a draft for the client to review and approve and have it posted in under ten minutes.

 

 

 

Set up your systems so that you can easily capture testimonials and feedback from your clients. For example, automate sending the client a text or email the day after their session and ask them “so how are you feeling today?”.

When you receive a response that is positive, ask permission to use it as a testimonial (limit name reference) and provide a sample for the client to ‘see’ what your intention is. To date, I’ve never had anyone say no!

Commence gathering a collection of testimonials and utilise them sporadically throughout your marketing and across social media platforms. Remember, varied length testimonials are also very handy when building or updating your website and filling in blank areas!

Remember as always, everything in life is practice. Use this COVID period to gather your testimonials and reviews, create a capture system and promote our amazing modality and your business all at the same time!

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland

About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, self-confessed laughaholic, and now Breast Cancer Advocate residing in Gippsland Victoria Australia. She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

27 Reasons To Kick Start Your Spiritual Journey Today

27 Reasons To Kick Start Your Spiritual Journey Today

To gain balance in this wonderful thing called ‘life’!!

Can you honestly tell me that you couldn’t do with some more love in your life right now? Ahem, let me reframe that from love to ‘self-care’, and see if you answered the same way?

 

Spiritual health is defined as creating a balance between physical, psychological and social aspects of human life.

 

I would hesitate a guess that this year, in particular, a large proportion of western society has paused to think to themselves “what the hell is going on with this virus?”. Furthermore, my best guess would include that COVID has gifted many people with the opportunity to pause their hectic chaotic lives and literally ask themselves “who am I?” and “what am I doing with my life?

If you haven’t taken the opportunity to ask yourself these questions during the lockdown, perhaps it’s time to undertake a spiritual health stocktake of your life!

 

Spiritual health is achieved when you feel at peace with life. It is when you are able to find hope and comfort in even the hardest of times. It can help to support you as you experience life completely. Spirituality is different for everyone.

 

If you’ve been feeling ‘meh’, negative nancy, lost or even overwhelmed, perhaps it’s time to reconnect with the real you, your inner self, your spiritual self?

 

Twenty Seven Reasons To Kickstart Your Journey

 

Here’s a quick list of reasons why you should be working on your spiritual self! Embarking on daily spiritual practices, habits and beliefs can support you to:-

  1. Improve your capacity to feel and experience peace within.
  2. Find hope in the most challenging of times.
  3. Be able to step out of drama external to self, and walk your own divine path.
  4. Gain inner peace. We are all deserving of feeling calm and relaxed.
  5. Feel worthy of peace and love as a human being.
  6. Embrace deservability of a wonderful life.
  7. Step out of fears which stop you living your dream life.
  8. Reframe negative thoughts, feelings, beliefs and habits.
  9. Live your life on purpose, rather than existing or merely going with the flow.
  10. Commit to self without self-doubt or judgement.
  11. Become more motivated about you to improve self first.
  12. Become consciously aware of the old stories you have been telling yourself which are filled with fears or untruths.
  13. Trash the old excuses of why you can’t have your dream life.
  14. Take small actions towards your dream life.
  15. Own your arising stuff (ie stress) and take responsibility for making changes.
  16. Allow yourself to experience simple fun without guilt or purchase.
  17. Take leaps of faith to try new experiences.
  18. Become courageous in pushing your boundary of abilities to live your dream life.
  19. Be your own cheerleader, to overcome challenges.
  20. Learn to let go of negative.
  21. Back yourself to always keep trying until you have achieved the lesson and/or success.
  22. Communicate from the heart, not the head.
  23. Expand your capacity for life, rather than merely tiptoeing through the jungle of mundane.
  24. Figure out what really matters and who you are.
  25. Connect to your ‘why’ (ie what motivates you).
  26. Determine your direction of growth.
  27. Get out of your own way through calm acceptance.

Simply embracing just one of these suggestions today could be the thing that changes your life tomorrow!

 

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland

About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, self-confessed laughaholic, and now Breast Cancer Advocate residing in Gippsland Victoria Australia. She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

Can You Risk Not Stepping Up To ‘Mother’ Yourself?

Can You Risk Not Stepping Up To ‘Mother’ Yourself?

Learn 7 easy practices of self-worship, to live your best life.

A child will nearly always run back to its mother when they are distressed, have a boo-boo, or simply in need of comfort. As we become teenagers we drift steps away from mother as our confidence and independence grow. We stretch out of the family unit a branch out onto our own journey path. Yet we are still in need of nurture and mothering.

As adults, regardless of whether we maintain a relationship with our biological mother, we remain in need of receipt of the same depth of loving nurture throughout life. Who better to provide that nurture to you than yourself?

After all, you know yourself better than anyone else — right? And yet, we so quickly and easily invest ourself and our energy into the drama of others, that we often lose sight of our nurture needs.

Nurture is not solely a role to be fulfilled by a partner, friends or children. There is to some extent an exchange of nurture, or mothering, in these relationships. The recognition of our needs, and responsibility to implement actions to feel fulfilled rests solely on our shoulders as individuals.

As adults, we get the choice to mother ourselves. Modern western society certainly advocates it through extensive ‘self-help’ promotions. So often the entrapment of a good marketing ploy places a perverse spin on the outcome we all desire and we struggle to implement the helpful mothering instructions.

Social media automatically establishes a comparison basis for the audience. For example “Are you happy like Suzie?” will be the copy in some ad of a perfect-looking chick with flat abs, no arse and a great job. The airbrushed model is not a realistic portrayal for most people who juggle the hustle of modern life. You don’t see nor appreciate Suzie’s struggle or challenges in life. You have no idea what she has accomplished to become worthy of this time in her journey. Nor can you see her stretch marks or what snack she gorged on inside her wardrobe in an effort to hide from the kids last night.

A mother is defined as a woman who gives birth or who has the responsibility of physical and emotional care for specific children.

The physical care based realm is obvious — food and shelter are the basics that come to mind. The emotional care for a child is a much more complex discussion. We age and mature, leave the family nest, but we never actually discard or shed our inner child. This facet of our psyche will always remain in need of mothering and loving nurture throughout our lives.

 

So let me ask this. If a mother isn’t mothering herself, what does her child learn through its observations? 

 

Does that child learn that it is their job to fix everyone else? Does that child learn that their significant place in the world is not immediately important? If a child doesn’t see it’s mother/carer nurture themself (in my eyes a mother isn’t gender-specific), how do they learn to read their own internal feelings meter and respond accordingly? How does the child learn a language of receptivity to gauge when things aren’t right and ask for help?

 

If the mother is of service to everyone else and doesn’t meet their own needs, will the child see how exhausted they are? Or will the child simply continue asking for more with the expectation of request fulfilment?

 

A good mother is judged in western society for their physical appearance and their presence in the child’s life. But what if we sat back and redefined a good mother is someone who tries their best, is honest with their feelings especially in terms of how they communicate with themselves and others with their truth? 

A good mother should be defined as someone who teaches a child how to become a responsible adult, with lessons of how to communicate openly whilst connected to their feelings barometer. This is done by leading through example. Often this involves negotiation after checking in with how you are feeling and determining your capacity for fulfilling the request from another.

Imagine if we truly valued how a mother guided a child to understand their own self-worth, self-confidence, and self-love. What if we perceived the performance of a mother based on how they showed their children how to value themselves through self-love actions. Imagine the resilience of our children, young teens and young adults if they were taught how to love themself?

Would our world be different if all parents were taught unconditional love, and then shared these lessons with their own children? Would our pace be slower? Would we naturally be more respectful? Would we naturally make eye contact when communicating, staring deeply into each other’s soul without feeling intimidated? Would we more readily express ourselves and not be afraid to follow our dreams?

So what can one do to mother themselves? I am constantly having this conversation in my clinical practice. I’ve not met a mother yet who doesn’t want their child to feel confident and resilient going out into the world. And yet, the majority of our teachings are from the behaviours and actions of our parents.

So let’s take a quick look at 7 ways you could improve your self-mothering today.

1. Decide you are worthy

Is today the day you can decide to value who you are? In an article by Psychology Alive, Dr. Lisa Firestone believes that “self-worth should be less about measuring yourself based on external actions and more about valuing your inherent worth as a person. In other words, self-worth is about who you are, not about what you do.

The act of deciding your worth should not focus on measuring ourself against others, but paying attention to one’s intrinsic value. Always remember the golden rule that there is always someone richer, more attractive, or successful than you.

Self-worth is all about forming a positive and healthy relationship with your inner critique, who by the way often gets chatty when you’re close to success. Why is this? It’s just your old fear pattern being exercised. When this arises remind yourself you are close to success so continue mothering yourself!

 

2. Set your intention

 

Setting an intention is one of the very fastest ways to consciously activate your receptivity for change. For example, if you were to go out in the day, and not have set any intention or created any type of prayer or manifestation of how you want the day to go, then you’re getting on a bike with no direction. Intentions can provide roadmaps and reminders for how to want to live out each day.

Intentions give you purpose, as well as the inspiration and motivation to achieve your purpose. The practice of setting daily intentions can change your life with consistent application, especially when applied to self-care and mothering.

Here are some sample intentions to try-

  • Today it is my intention to surrender to ordinary thinking
  • Today is it my intention to be open to more joy in my life through
  • today I gift myself permission to take timeouts and reset my mood where required so that I remain upbeat and dynamic

3. Commitment to self

 

The journey of life can new viewed two way. Either you’re drifting through it or you’re owning it and the lessons that are gifted to you. Make the commitment to back yourself today. No excuses!

Every time you feel yourself being tractor beamed into someone else’s drama, tap your hip (it’s a kinesiology based neurological reset button) and state aloud to yourself “RESET”. Literally, picture yourself stepping back and just observing the other party.

 

4. Take regular time outs

 

One of the very best lessons I ever learnt personally in relation to mothering myself first was this. If I use all of my energy being of service to everyone else, my bucket very quickly runs dry. That means I turn into a hot mess and I’m no good to anyone.

Giving yourself permission to take a time out is gold. It’s like resetting yourself to start the day again. We all have stuff crop up in our lives. Some days are better than others.

Utilise a ‘time out’ to reset the mindset from crappy to happy.

When I take time out throughout every single day, I maintain my centre and focus. I’m grounded. I’m energised. I am connected to my intuition. Break up the monotony of the daily routine with short bursts of activity — I chase puppies, hang out the washing, yoga stretch, meditate or dance disco 80s style.

 

5. Implement little love actions

 

Small loving actions such as rubbing scented lotion onto your skin, taking a bath, nature immersion, all make significant contributions towards lowering your cortisol levels and keeping you calm. The more relaxed you are, the better you sleep, the younger you look. The better quality sleep you obtain, the more energy you will have for tomorrow.

 

6. Be generous with your love language

 

Never limit the love language you give yourself inside your head. One of the best ways to consciously infuse self-worth, boost deservabilty and confidence, is to love all over yourself with how you communicate to and with yourself.

Find small ways to appreciate who you are and what you’ve got to offer in your own life and the world. Utilise that voice in your head to talk positive. Any time a negative statement is uttered tell Spirit “CANCEL THAT” and reframe immediately into something positive.

you will undoubtedly find yourself cancelling lots of negative thoughts in the first couple of weeks. However, keep reminding yourself that you are literally retraining your thought processes and making happiness bank account deposits each time you reframe something into positive.

Keep reminding yourself you are so worth this investment!

 

7. Be grateful & thankful

 

Harvard Health discusses “in psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. People feel and express gratitude in multiple ways.

Being thankful helps you to think more about other people’s feelings from their point of view. It’s called empathy. Remember this, creating thankful thought habits helps you get through life’s tough times. This is because you have trained your mind to reframe all of the good things in your life.

 

Summary

 

The only person actually responsible for the adult version of self is you. Sure you can blame your parents for your childhood, but your adult life and how well you live it is on you. Make the commitment to mother self today with unconditional love and intention.

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland

About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, self-confessed laughaholic, and now Breast Cancer Advocate residing in Gippsland Victoria Australia. She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’ 

Embrace Your Wound

Embrace Your Wound

Get comfortable sitting in your ‘discomfort’ enables the shifts to live the life you desire! 

 

I’m getting a lot of calls and messages lately, from clients who have avoided their stuff for months if not years. They are distressed and desperate for an immediate change of circumstances. Their stuff is swallowing them whole. 

Let’s be clear, we ALL have stuff — you know, that shit we all deal with. The stuff that includes challenges so negative that trip us up and cause us to splat on our face.

We’ve all got stuff in our lives to deal with. Never delude yourself that you don’t, because you do. No one is excluded from learning lessons. No one.

In my experience though, it’s how well we are willing to explore our stuff that determines what we learn about ourselves. Our willingness regarding how quickly we can dig around and investigate our stuff, and how we evolve from the lessons that need to be learnt actually drive the outcome of who we are today and what we become tomorrow.

Deep right? But knowing this doesn’t solve the discomfort you may be sitting in right now. 

In fact, if you have been avoiding taking responsibility for your stuff for a while it is highly likely that lately you have felt trapped or burdened in life. The world is changing and many of us are struggling to figure out who we are and where we now fit? 

 

You may be desperate to want to make changes and have no idea where to start and the anxiety of this is eating you up.

Those of us who are more resilient than others are willing and able to explore the darkness within. We are willing and motivated to sit in our stuff and allow ourselves to explore in order to understand and gain knowledge of who we are. It feels like there is no time for wallowing, just exploration.

Is it comfortable or pleasant? Nope.

It’s only when we avoid, procrastinate, and delay this exploration that we feel pain. The longer we allow the festering to evolve what happens on an unconscious level is how we develop mental habits to reinforce more avoidance, procrastination and you guessed it, more pain. 

And so the cycle not only continues but escalates its reinforcement of the new rules — avoid pain at all costs. Do you see how quickly you can create a base for anxiety to root into?

Not exactly the outcome we want when desperately seeking support. And yet so many people book a singular appointment expecting a cure to their ails but with no work undertaken on their part. 

I have even been asked during the middle of a consultation “is there a pill to make the shit go away?”

Their investment to being responsible for their stuff is zero and they continue to wonder why they are still swallowed and consumed by the mud of their krud.

 


 

Breast cancer has been an immense chapter of self-discovery. It feels somewhat like an abyss of stuff I have been wading through and I am finally feeling like I am getting traction. Lots of meditation and quiet walks to process what arises. Acceptance and stepping beyond ordinary thinking have taken me leaps and bounds. 

 

It is such a gift to self to allow yourself to step into ‘responsibility’ and wade around the stuff.

 

There are occasions whereby it is uncomfortable and sure you want to avoid stepping in it, much like avoiding dogshit on the pavement. It’s natural to want to avoid the uncomfortable.

But guess what? When you take the time to look, sitting quietly in your heart space, you gain such a profound understanding of who you are and what makes you tick. 

Your head holds your response programs to your experiences. Your body holds the emotions which drive the programs. Your heart is the source of your love and intuition.

If you are in your head all the time how well connected to your truth are you? Or are you simply playing mental pattern reruns of the nightmare on elm street?

This deeper understanding of yourself allows you to simply accept everything as it is and love all of the facets of you — love the positive and the negative. For it’s the negative or darkness that holds your deepest lessons. I liken the negative to my hidden treasure. I simply need to accept it’s there, and by doing this there is no fight. This acceptance is like shining light on the situation so that I gain clarity.

What this crazy COVID-CANCER year has taught me, is to slow down. It’s often when I’m out of my head and having a nature fix that Spirit gets chatty, and I can easily connect with my inner wisdom. 

Having done spiritual journey work for nearly two decades, I’m used to exploring and processing my stuff. What I’m learning this year, with the influx of new energy is this.

What if we simply accepted that we have stuff? 

Would merely accepting something has arisen negate the need to judge? 

Would acceptance negate the need to assess and process?

Would conscious acceptance of the stuff merely turn off the negative attachment to the stuff and you see it and let it go with full, and loving conscious awareness?

So I’ll challenge you with this question! 

Is it time to stop running from ‘self’? Is it time to pause and embrace all that you are? 

Worthy. 

Deserving.

Loveable. 

Amazing. 

Radiant.

Strong. 

And best of all are you feeling effervescent with life?!!!

 

Deep down you know fulfilment doesn’t come from food, a job, or a romantic partner. It springs organically from your soul.” -Panache Desai

 

For some reason we fear going deep within to find our own answers – we have them all you know?

It takes a little practice and a willingness to explore. As you settle the monkey mind and step down into your heart space you create a new neural pathway, like muscle memory.

The transition back to your true self gets easier and easier with daily commitment. When the chips are down you get to review the current situation and then choose again.

Ready to try and connect with self today?

Walking around my local nature reserve this morning I paused mid-walk to do a meditation.

As you know I am preparing my body and headspace for surgery later this week.  

There is a myriad of emotions and beliefs that I have been regularly sitting with, peeling back to expose and love through a deeper understanding.

The process isn’t as heavy as it used to once be. The serenity arrives as I surrender to learning and embracing self, rather than avoiding and procrastinating. 

Wishing a problem would go away or disappear sends a wish to the universe that you would rather sit in your pain body than address the lesson and embrace the love of self.

I saw a magnificent tree this morning on my walk. Whilst it had what appeared to be an open wound, upon closer inspection it was sealed over. And the tree had flourished despite the wound.

My lesson through this observation was this. Despite the experience of breast cancer, the surgeries and treatment I am still my feral funny self. 

I am still a joy seeker. I still chase sunrises and rainbows. I still love tree-hugging and telling naughty jokes. 
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I am still me, just not as green as a young sapling. My branches and trunk have matured and evolved.

Want to know how I started this process?

 

I set my intention daily to surrender to ‘ordinary thinking’.

 

When I ask spirit for guidance, and I remain open-minded the smallest things catch my eye. Sometimes the reason I stare or investigate is obvious. Other times I seek additional clarification. 

I literally gasp “please show me the lesson with clarity ease and grace”.

Just like the tree, I continue to grow. Like the tree, I trust that my wound will seal just like the tree.

Our scars tell a story, add interest, give us depth, just like this tree. Without the wound, you may have just thought it was a beautiful tree and kept walking but you’ve stopped and wondered about its life and that’s far more interesting than it’s external beauty.

Exploring your wound doesn’t have to be painful. You simply have to be curious. In other words, you have to be willing to look. 

The quicker you find the challenge and accept that it’s yours the sooner you will be seeking a solution. 

Look at my life. Without cancer, I wouldn’t be right where I am today.

Everything that has happened in the last six months has taught me so much. It showed me I am so much more than a cancer survivor. I have solidified the ultimate and innate knowing of Karen. I learnt the power of embracing self and what is brought to the table when you drop the hustle and are exactly who you should be.

I have learnt that my toolbox is incredible and spirit is now showing me how to share this with the world.

Karen Humphries, Change Chick, Change Facilitator, Kinesiology, Wellness Coach, Australian Bush Flower Essences, LEAP Facilitator, Trauma, Public Speaker, Cancer Ambassador, Blooming From Within, Traralgon, Victoria, Gippsland

About Karen

Change Facilitator

Karen Humphries is a Kinesiology Practitioner, Health & Business Coach, self-confessed laughaholic, and now Breast Cancer Advocate residing in Gippsland Victoria Australia. She loves being of service to the world with her humorous and positive approach to life, encouraging people to ‘choose to change and bloom from within.’