Manifesting Good Vibes Only

Manifesting Good Vibes Only

Breast cancer has been a gift on so many levels. I have met some incredibly talented people along the way and will continue to do so. As part of this cancer chapter, so far I’ve had extensive surgery prior to undergoing adjuvant therapy.

I was recently sharing the story with a friend, of how I interacted with my surgical teams in theatre. I was telling them, that I was surprised to observe that not many people talk and interact with staff in the sterile room. They simply get wheeled into the sterile room, get the good juice and whadda bing bam boom, and then you wake up. Not me. I made eye contact with each of my team members and formed a bond.

I very quickly figured out it’s not normal or routine for patients to liaise with theatre staff. My surgical team had a stunned reaction to what I said to them … I told my surgical teams “we were embarking on a reinvention journey for my body”. We weren’t just operating to remove cancer, we were evolving me to a place of health. It helped my mindset that cancer resulted in a new set of boobies!

I thanked these wonderful staff in advance. I thanked them for waking up that morning and deciding to come to work and be of service to me. Their faces simply lit up that they had been thanked.

I blessed them for their skills and thanked them for their dedication and their time to care for me. I looked at each of them in the eye and told them I was grateful. I’m getting teary just sharing this with you because I’m remembering their heartfelt hugs and their statements “we’ve got you Karen”. I couldn’t think of a more positive way to commence the process of a mastectomy and breast reconstruction – with heartfelt love.

I know my surgical team all had smiles on their dials as they worked in the vibration of joy, whilst working on my body each time. For the second and third surgeries, staff remembered me and welcomed me back with loving smiles.

Theoretically we are all conceived in love and I wanted my surgical reinvention to be the same!

So my small intention-based action of thanking my surgical team had massive flow-on effects.

  • I woke up calm, well and relaxed from the general anaesthetic;
  • I had 145cm of suture line which predominantly healed exceptionally well in a very short period of time;
  • I maintained a great healing mindset and my physiotherapy went smoothly.

I instilled abundance and joy as a vibrational energy into my new breasts.

So how can you establish good vibes for your life in general, let alone significant milestone events? I used the Law of Attraction Principles. I knew when surgery was planned and did some preparation meditation and journaling, attending to any arising fears. Then I did the following:

1. See It

In this example I envisaged the dream life I wanted, or state I want to be living. Complication free surgery and recovering. I included in my vision, feeling joyous, abundantly happy and flowing with life. I included very specific details in the vision of the life I want. This helped later on to be clear when I was achieving success and evidencing change.

So I envisaged being able to easily get out of bed post-surgery, without aid, without cannulas, drains or drips. Guess what? Most of the tubing was removed by day three, ahead of anticipated schedule. I envisaged myself sitting out of bed comfortably, moving easily around my hospital room and at home. I allowed myself to see myself comfortable in my new shape and love it.

I allowed my meditation to see beyond the scarring to one year down the track when everything was healed. Two months out this remains my focus, newfound freedom with the new shape.

2. Believe it

The second part to the meditative envisaging stage is to believe what you see is real. Your brain, believe it not, does not recognise real from imagined. The trick with believing your dream life is true is to eliminate any and all negative aspects. This is the time to get your journal out and pour out all of the ‘what ifs’, all the worries of what could go wrong. Often when you have brought this negative stuff to the surface and given it air, the negative thought or feeling deflates, and your logic brain can override the fear. Once the fear response is dialled down, your brain can then problem solve alternative options.

3. Live as if it already is true

One of my favourite things I love about the Law of Attraction is living my dream life as if it already is occurring. The third part of manifesting good vibes, apart from seeing and believing is the connection to how you will feel when you live your best life. It’s this connection to the good emotional juju, all the good feels, that drives the dream being realised.

It’s not about winning a million dollars, because let’s face it – you still have all the same problems. But if you address any arising negative thought patterns as you focus on your dream life, and embrace more joy, more harmony and gratitude and more love into your life, you realise that you are in fact living a life with good vibes only!

You really can choose to change and bloom from within, making small changes to live your dream life.

Xmas Burnout Prevention Tips

Xmas Burnout Prevention Tips

I can vividly remember a time when I worked in both government and consulting jobs and there was enormous pressure to do a month’s worth of work in three weeks during the month of December. As a small business operator, I’ve learnt this is the same but being my own boss means that I get to plan when I’m busy and how busy I choose to be.

I can remember a time when I felt completely burnt out and was way too tired to enjoy Christmas. My husband worked in a retail job and dealt with cranky customers for six weeks, and frankly he hated celebrating Christmas. He was completely over it.

Thankfully that’s not us anymore. We learnt to embrace our race at our pace. As a business coach now, I regularly share my tips on how to avoid burnout as a practitioner this festive season.

 

Tip # 1 – Plan Ahead And Dedicate Time For Family And Friends First

By booking time for commitments you want to keep with family and friends, you can then choose to work around these times. You get to remain in charge of your calendar and not be dictated of your availability.

Be sure that these special times and appointments are clearly marked in your diary. Over the years I’ve coped a lot of flak from family when booking way in advance in the calendar, but I feel awesome when I arrive to an event, feeling refreshed and have set aside time to be able to contribute to the meal by doing some food preparation and gift wrapping.

I can vividly remember a time when I worked in both government and consulting jobs and there was enormous pressure to do a month’s worth of work in three weeks during the month of December. As a small business operator, I’ve learnt this is the same but being my own boss means that I get to plan when I’m busy and how busy I choose to be.

I can remember a time when I felt completely burnt out and was way too tired to enjoy Christmas. My husband worked in a retail job and dealt with cranky customers for six weeks, and frankly he hated celebrating Christmas. He was completely over it.

Thankfully that’s not us anymore. We learnt to embrace our race at our pace. As a business coach now, I regularly share my tips on how to avoid burnout as a practitioner this festive season.

 

Tip # 1 – Plan Ahead And Dedicate Time For Family And Friends First

By booking time for commitments you want to keep with family and friends, you can then choose to work around these times. You get to remain in charge of your calendar and not be dictated of your availability.

Be sure that these special times and appointments are clearly marked in your diary. Over the years I’ve coped a lot of flak from family when booking way in advance in the calendar, but I feel awesome when I arrive to an event, feeling refreshed and have set aside time to be able to contribute to the meal by doing some food preparation and gift wrapping.

I can vividly remember a time when I worked in both government and consulting jobs and there was enormous pressure to do a month’s worth of work in three weeks during the month of December. As a small business operator, I’ve learnt this is the same but being my own boss means that I get to plan when I’m busy and how busy I choose to be.

I can remember a time when I felt completely burnt out and was way too tired to enjoy Christmas. My husband worked in a retail job and dealt with cranky customers for six weeks, and frankly he hated celebrating Christmas. He was completely over it.

Thankfully that’s not us anymore. We learnt to embrace our race at our pace. As a business coach now, I regularly share my tips on how to avoid burnout as a practitioner this festive season.

 

Tip # 1 – Plan Ahead And Dedicate Time For Family And Friends First

By booking time for commitments you want to keep with family and friends, you can then choose to work around these times. You get to remain in charge of your calendar and not be dictated of your availability.

Be sure that these special times and appointments are clearly marked in your diary. Over the years I’ve coped a lot of flak from family when booking way in advance in the calendar, but I feel awesome when I arrive to an event, feeling refreshed and have set aside time to be able to contribute to the meal by doing some food preparation and gift wrapping.

Tip #2 – Have A 100 Day / Appointment Countdown Till Xmas Campaign

After you have marked time for you in the festive season, calculate a 100 appointment vacancy count down till xmas. EVERY time I run this campaign, I quickly fill my forward bookings. I use ‘Buddy the Elf’. And whilst I have some grinchy clients who groan when they see Buddy, there are those regular clients who will book a couple of sessions to ensure they can tolerate their mother in laws and visiting family who they only see once a year – I always laugh when people tell me these sessions help them to stay out of prison, for without it their patience and tolerance of others would have taken a vacation to the north pole!

Tip #3 – Meal Planning & Food Preparation

Now I know this sounds ridiculous, but what do you find yourself advising clients – look after yourself first! As a busy working mum who has an active social life, the month of December for me is filled with a huge variety of ‘end of year’ activities, catching up with friends etc. and then there are all the events for my daughter as well. The last thing I want to think about is what to cook for dinner.

So, I plan a month’s worth of meals, which are quick and easy to prepare. I have variety to stimulate my palate and ensure that I maintain my calorie intake. I dedicate half a day each week to do food prep for the week to limit the time I do before each meal. I want to be able to dash into the kitchen and choose less than 10 ingredients and pull together a nutritious meal.

 

Tip #4 – Continue Your Exercise Regime

In order to maintain my high vibe I have to move my body each and every day. So I schedule this time into my calendar. Frankly you may call this ‘control freak’, but I call this keeping myself honest and dedicated to self. It also sends a message to universe that I am committed to self. I am also demonstrating to my clients that I walk my talk. I am filling up my cup first and everyone else gets the overflow.

 

Tip #5 – It’s Ok To Say No

During December, sometimes friends and family may have to wait. But this is my choice because I don’t want to compromise my time with loved ones. I want to capitalise on the time we spend together and not rush it.

Therefore, I have most of my ‘delayed dates’ in January. Instead of spending an hour with dear friends and family in December, I can dedicate an entire day or weekend in January. Everyone wins and I feel so much more relaxed. This means that my vibrational energy remains high to be of service to clients. Those nearest and dearest to me understand I run my own business and feel happy that I prefer quality time with them.

December is a crazy clinical month for me. I make an active decision to work an extra weekend day during this month to support my mental health clients who struggle with the festivity of the season – for whatever their reason. So, I limit what I do on weekends socially during this month and tend to celebrate life after xmas is over.

 

Tip #6 – Make Your Own Traditions

We’ve experienced a family rift because we weren’t gathering on the expected Christmas day event. If we are realistic, this is just another day of the year. Yes, it’s special for kids, but frankly you make it what you want to make it.

My husband almost loathes Christmas after working in retail for nearly two decades. So he hates shopping, even for groceries during this time. So we do things that are away from the crowds. We spend quality time with people who make us laugh and make our hearts sing.

There is always silliness with my crazy festive hats. There’s also laughing at my dancing, of which it is intended. There’s always friends around my table rather than immediate family who are spread three corners of the state. Our extended families all work either for themselves or shift work. So to get us in the one place on the one day is a logistical nightmare.

Just do your best. If some year’s this doesn’t appease someone, remind yourself that their complaint is theirs and not yours. Just please you and respect others.

Embrace your race at your pace. Plan ahead so it’s more likely you can cruise along the festive pathway rather than careen towards a cliff!