So we’re a month past the New Year. I’ve returned to clinic after taking a blissful month away just for me. I’ve found it absolutely necessary to remain very focussed on my self-care regime. And what I found is this – when I look after myself, my motivation to do and be more, is through the roof.
This week back in clinic, I’m hearing lots of dialogue and even complaints, regarding falling off the wagon in terms of commitment to self. One of the lessons I re-affirmed for myself during this recent break is this. Keep It Simple.
Sounds ridiculously easy doesn’t it? For some, being able to commit to self is completely overwhelming. So I always suggest to have a goal, but let’s break down the action based tasks so that you can easily digest, assess and implement all the stuff. And guess what? You don’t have to do it all. You don’t have to do it every day. You don’t have to do it all the time. But I strongly recommend you do something, just for you – every day.
Rather than punishing yourself for what you haven’t done yesterday, or what you want to do tomorrow – just focus on one day at a time. You can’t undo what’s already been done, and you can’t control what’s gonna happen tomorrow – you can only roll with what comes your way.
I often find that when I kick start my day with a simple positive intention, everything just flows. I utilise the intention to return to my focus point if I’ve been challenged. Something as simple as “I am the priority of my life” creates amazing changes and enables you to consciously focus on you, rather than invest in the drama of others.
During my down time I created a vision board that aligns with my business plan. But it also includes all the fun I intend to have with family and friends. The abundance has already begun to roll in, because I’ve invested the time to envisage what it is I want. Then I journaled, a bit like writing myself a love letter, and then found the pictures of the outcomes I wanted. I kept my focus on how I wanted to feel from the experiences I want to have.
In alignment with my business plan and vision board I created SMART goals.
It’s important that your goals are specific, in that they are well defined and focussed. The moment you focus on your goal, you generate momentum and create goal power. Darrell Zahorsky explains this as “the moment you focus on a goal, your goal becomes a magnet, pulling you and your resources toward it. The more focused your energies, the more power you generate.”
Your goals need to be measurable. As a business owner I’ve set myself financial targets for my business, but they also align with savings for our next family holiday. Therefore, I’m tying my goals together to maintain my focus and motivation for several things.
Your goals need to be attainable. It’s one thing to have a dream, but can you actually achieve it. Again this links back to start small, trial new things. Utilise reflection to determine what works easily and what takes lots of your time and energy for not much return. This links to the relevance of your goal – can you actually do it.
The timing of achieving goals is important to maintain your motivation, rather than just having a pie in the sky pipe dream. You want to know you are working to a deadline of achievement.
I find it essential to have small rewards along the way. Even a simple massage is time away from everyone and everything and replenishes my spirit. The gift of daily meditation in my bath is also golden. Figure out what treats work for you and go love all over yourself.
It’s important to acknowledge yourself and your positive attributes. Afterall, it’s likely your talents that you’ll be using to reach the goals! Even if you’re only celebrating quietly within your journal entries, you are still reflecting and celebrating your skills and strengths. This means you are shining your light!
Visualising the goal coming to fruition is a vital tool used in the Law of Attraction. It keeps you focussed and investing the positive mental energy into the heart space – where the feelings reside when you achieve this thing you want. Meditation or even meditative walking, whereby you imagine the dream life is a fantastic way to embrace the positive.
As you travel your journey path, it’s essential to be kind to yourself. Don’t get caught up in the drama of others. Don’t get stuck comparing yourself and where you are at, in relation to others. They don’t walk your path. Nor do they have your stuff or lessons to be learnt. Just be you.
Never forget how amazing you are, and your light will naturally shine to the world. Doing small things each day to love all over yourself will maintain your motivation to stay on your path of self discovery and achievement of your intended dream life.
You can choose to change and bloom from within.